09-23-2009, 10:20 PM
So my wife, who has been understanding about my smoking cigars even though she doesn't agree with it, comes home tonight after stopping by her parents home. Seems the parents are handling a lot of issues all at once and topping it off a relative has taken up cigar smoking and his wife called my MIL about it. Everyone on that side of the family is upset (except him, probably) and beside themselves because they're not able to differentiate between cigarettes and cigars in addition to the doctor telling him it wasn't good for him due to his family health history.
My wife is now concerned about her parents reaction when one day they discover that their SIL has a fairly serious penchant for the leaf as well. Serious enough, in fact, that he's been known to give advice to the Deacons who partake as to what they might like to try next in their pursuit of cigar-perfection.
My initial response is "Let the chips fall where they might and we'll address it with them when it happens..." but at the same time her Father lost his dad to cancer and again, anything that might affect your health adversely they feel you should avoid.
I'm usually the "peacekeeper" of groups, though this one is not one on which I'm budging. The question really becomes does anyone here have any similar situations and how have you handled it, other than telling them to go mind their own business or trying to convince them of the differences between cigars and cigarettes.
Are there other discussions/dissertations/arguments of which you're aware, or is this going to be one of those "when it hits the fan, brace yourself" type of moments?
My primary focus is to help my wife and family through this, but at the same time I know why it's been said that NOT living in the same town as your family is a GOOD thing. This potential issue aside, I've got great in-laws who have consistently been considerate of our family issues. This one, though, may prove to be challenging and I thought I'd toss it out there for advice.
Thanks in advance... [cigar]
My wife is now concerned about her parents reaction when one day they discover that their SIL has a fairly serious penchant for the leaf as well. Serious enough, in fact, that he's been known to give advice to the Deacons who partake as to what they might like to try next in their pursuit of cigar-perfection.
My initial response is "Let the chips fall where they might and we'll address it with them when it happens..." but at the same time her Father lost his dad to cancer and again, anything that might affect your health adversely they feel you should avoid.
I'm usually the "peacekeeper" of groups, though this one is not one on which I'm budging. The question really becomes does anyone here have any similar situations and how have you handled it, other than telling them to go mind their own business or trying to convince them of the differences between cigars and cigarettes.
Are there other discussions/dissertations/arguments of which you're aware, or is this going to be one of those "when it hits the fan, brace yourself" type of moments?
My primary focus is to help my wife and family through this, but at the same time I know why it's been said that NOT living in the same town as your family is a GOOD thing. This potential issue aside, I've got great in-laws who have consistently been considerate of our family issues. This one, though, may prove to be challenging and I thought I'd toss it out there for advice.
Thanks in advance... [cigar]